Sometimes people say or do things without thinking.
This can be due to a hundred different things … and for a hundred different reasons. It may come from a negative space … or from a positive space … but that doesn’t mean it wasn’t done without thinking.
I do it the most with my Mrs … but with a lot of friends in general, I find.
I jump in with kind words.
I offer a different view, pampering, protection, assistance … “solutions”
I forget that people need to work that out themselves and that they did not ask for any of that …
I need to remember to just listen and acknowledge them.
Only offering anything else after they ask**.
It’s harder to do than say.
Even if you just want everyone to truly happy … maybe we need to let them find the sunshine by walking out of their own fire swamps.
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* I wrote this on another blog about a week ago, but wanted to put it elsewhere for posterity and to remind myself
**As someone mentioned, "I would feel I wasn’t being there for them if I didn’t and yet most likely it is the wrong thing".
[Reposted from xntrek]
